Spring is practically synonymous with love and flowers, so it seemed natural to ask gardeners about the secrets of a good relationship. After all, they have to know about growing and nurturing to be successful. So Have You Heard headed out to the Jackson County Extension Center to ask women in the Master Gardener program:
Most men tend not to be communicators. I've put a lot of effort into getting him to talk. You can learn a lot. And having mutual respect is really important.
We love each other for who we are and we push each other to grow. We each have our own lives now, but we still have our common interests. We have our own hobbies, but they work in partnership. I love to garden and he loves to build the beds and the hardscape.
I think it's the time factor. We make spending time together a high priority. We make an effort. I go have lunch with him at his school. We look at garden catalogs on the couch in front of the fire, just like we did "BC"-- before children.
Having similar interests. We love to travel; we work out in the yard; we have our faith in God. Basically, it's spending time together. As we get older our relationship is changing. I get upset with my husband and he gets upset with me, but you have to be realistic. You can't expect perfection.
For us, we've been together for 11 years, but only married for one. We have similar interests. We spend time together and have mutual respect for each other. He gets excited when I get excited about things and I'm the same with him. He's a kayaker and he competes. I'd prefer he didn't go away for a week while I worry, but you have to support each other in passions that you don't necessarily want the other person to do.
We share a lot of common interests. We can literally grow together; we just bought a beautiful farm in west Medford. We share our landscape plans and ask for feedback. We have a lot of fun together. The other thing is to have a place large enough so you can have your own space. We make time together when we want to on dates, or just having a glass of wine and a Jacuzzi.
Christ is the foundation for us, and after that, trust in each other is very important.
We've been married 42 years and we've had disagreements but we've never had a fight. We have a lot of respect for each other. It is a 50-50 relationship. I've learned to fish and he's learned to shop.