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The Company Of One's Self

Friendship is one of life's delights, but sometimes relationships aren't available. That's when knowing how to be good company to yourself is a gift. Can you be your own best company? Is it an attitude or an act of self love, or even an indulgence? Have You Heard went out to ask women: What is it you do when you want to be your own best companion?

Mo Waite

I feel it's not beating yourself up emotionally and taking the time you need, personally. It's not being afraid to be yourself—that's really hard for some people. Accept yourself the way you are.

Sandee Webb
Central Point

I don't remember the last time I was alone. I have two kids and a busy family life, and we own a business. When I'm alone I don't know what to do with myself. When school starts I can scrapbook and shop.

Sheri Barnes
White City

I think it's an attitude. You have to be at peace with yourself and the choices that you're making in daily life. You can't have any unresolved anger and resentment. I'm able to accomplish a lot more when I'm at peace with myself.

Janice Davis
Albany, Calif.

I listen to music; I read; I walk and enjoy looking at people's landscaping and gardens. Sometimes I just sit with my cat.

Diane Perez

I pamper myself with a special meal and get a massage, that's the best I can do right now. We're not traveling or camping because of the price of gas. Coming to the grower's market feels like doing something good for myself. Or going to Chozu or Jackson Wellsprings (both in Ashland) for the hot springs. It's peaceful and they're both outdoors.

Maura Rosie

It comes with some self-examination. You have to know who you are, so meditation helps. Then you need a variety of interests.

Ellie von Radics

Definitely first you have to accept yourself, and then I pamper myself. I take a long shower and sit with my cat and watch a movie.

Elizabeth von Radics

The best way to be your own best friend is to take care of yourself. For me that's eating from the farmer's market, yoga and reading a good book, and, oh yes, I hold the cat.

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