Even in our uncertain times, we still hope for marriage that lasts a lifetime. Could one reason be the wedding celebration often entails an enormous amount of planning, money and stress? Like all fleeting moments, we load it with meaning and then treasure or cringe at its memories. In order to help this season's brides, Have You Heard asked women at the Briscoe Artist Faire in Ashland, "What's the most important element of the wedding celebration?"
It's the flowers. They have such a delicate, natural beauty. I like lots of color and millions of sunflowers. I want to plant a whole field of flowers and put a row down the middle and get married in that space.
The people around you are the most important part. Rather than worry about matching bridesmaids' dresses or things like that, what I'd like is a community to celebrate my wedding. The food is important, too. That's one reason I like to go to weddings.
I've always thought it was the opportunity for the family to welcome the new person into the circle. It's a place for the whole families from both sides to come together and say, 'You are our daughter,' or, 'You are our son,' or brother, or niece or whatever.
It's the fellowship and the support of friends. Today's weddings are so large, with so many people around them — I suppose that's how much support they need today. I got married in 1944 in my parents' living room, and we were married 64 and a half years.
I guess it's the wedding dress — the tradition of the white dress. I think you should look like a princess.
I think the most important part is the weather and the setting. If it is bad weather, you'll be in a bad mood, and it seems to affect the marriage later on. Try and make sure you set it up in the best way. Try to take in all the factors and plan accordingly.
I think it's having personal wedding vows that you write to each other. Then that the wedding is blessed by someone who knows you and is meaningful to you, whether it's a priest, minister or someone else.
I had so many roadblocks in the way of my wedding. It was just a blessing to get married. There are so many things that can go wrong. It's a relief to take the sacred wedding vows.