Family asks for return of locket containing ashes
Just weeks after the two-year anniversary of the loss of her eldest son, Kyle, Medford mother Lynn Hodgen is feeling her loss a little heavier than usual after the theft of some of her son’s cremated remains.
Ashes of Kyle Ramsey, who died from an overdose in October of 2017, were taken when Hodgen’s car, and her daughter’s car, were broken into outside her East Medford home in the area near the 7-11 and Providence Hospital area.
Hodgen described the necklace as having a black, smooth surface, with a rectangular pendant that has her son’s first name engraved on front. Hodgen said she kept the necklace hanging on her rear view mirror to avoid losing it during the workday.
Hodgen took to social media this week to spread the word about losing the sentimental necklace and called the outpouring of support and well-wishers from friends, family and strangers “very touching.”
“I’ve been really surprised by all the shares on my Facebook post. People have been really sweet,” she said. “A lot of people seem to care, which has been really nice because most of them are strangers and didn’t even know Kyle.”
Hodgen said her Volkswagen Golf station wagon was broken into after she’d been to Costco and her daughter, home from college, heard a dog barking just before 2 a.m. and clicked her car key fob to make the car horn chirp, potentially thwarted any vandals.
Hodgen admits she was tired and forgot to lock the door to her car after multiple trips into the house to unload her groceries.
“I noticed the next day when I got in my car, things had been shuffled through. It was pretty devastating to realize Kyle’s necklace was gone,” she said.
Ramsey was only 26 years old when he died on October 2, 2017 — coincidentally, the same day as his favorite musician, Tom Petty.
An avid Green Bay Packers fan who played football for Crater High during his time there, Ramsey left behind a behind a son, sister, brother and extended family who miss him, said Hodgen. Despite his life circumstance – battling addiction and homelessness, Ramsey is remembered for his kindness.
Ramsey’s grandmother Ada Hodgen said hearing of the loss of the necklace felt like losing her precious first-born grandchild all over again.
“We are very heartbroken about this intrusion that somebody took my grandson’s ashes,” said the Ada Hodgen. “I am heartbroken for my daughter.
“We are hoping that maybe somebody knows about it or, if they don’t know about it, if they come across it and they will do the right thing. My grandson had an addiction, but he had a beautiful soul and he cared about everyone. He would take his shoes and jacket off to give to someone who needed them.”
She added, “I used to tell him he was like Robin Hood, because he was always helping people less fortunate than him. I know he would hope that somebody would bring this necklace back to his mother.”
The grandmother, who said she learned of her grandson’s overdose-related death when a social media post prompted someone to call, said all of Ramsey’s immediate family members received the same necklace after Ramsey’s passing.
“I wear mine all the time and it gives me peace and comfort. I kiss it every night and I keep it on me all the time,” she said.
“I’m just begging for people if they have the knowledge of where this was taken — please return the necklace.”
Lynn Hodgen said she would be “beyond grateful” and would be thrilled to get it back, “no questions asked.”
“I come outside in the morning and I keep expecting to see it hanging on the side mirror,” she said.
Whether the necklace ends up at a pawn shop, discarded in a city park, dropped off at the police department or gifted to someone who saw about the necklace on her Facebook post, Hodgen hopes her son’s remains will find their way back to his loved ones.
“I think maybe they just saw some jewelry and grabbed it. Maybe they didn’t realize what it was,” she said.
“My son struggled with addiction and ultimately that’s what took his life. I understand there a lot of good people out there that need help and are suffering from their decisions. The sickness of drug addiction is really, really sad. I don’t think it was an intentional thing.”
Anyone with information on the necklace or car break-in are asked to contact Medford Police, 541-770-4783 and refer to case number 19-21087.
The necklace can also be dropped off at the police department or the lobby of the Mail Tribune at 111 North Fir Street in Medford.
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