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Fear of intimacy or loving intimacy

If we have been hurt by others, felt betrayed or been abandoned, we can come to a place of fearing intimacy.

The fear comes from not wanting to get hurt again. We set up walls, shut our hearts from feeling, become skittish with certain types of people we may perceive as judgmental or negative. We become protective.

Shutting our hearts from feeling also hurts us, because we are not feeling love. If we protect ourselves this way, it keeps us from experiencing the love we can have in our life. We end up just living life rather than living in bliss and in depths of love. We spend our days going to work, getting our groceries, maybe working out and going into nature.

On some level, we are hiding from the world. We have healthy beliefs systems and some that are not serving us. We are aware of some of these beliefs, while others are hidden in our subconscious to emerge and be healed and evolved to higher levels of self-love.

The belief systems that are not serving us are what I call “contrasting belief systems.”

Life experiences push our buttons around the contrasts within us some call “shadows” to enlighten us to greater self love and empowerment. Instead of hating these contrasting beliefs that are not serving us and blaming others for them, we can have courage and embrace them and learn what they are trying to teach us. When fear comes up, shift it to courage. When we want to judge others who are pushing our buttons in areas that are not serving us, shift the judgments to love and gratitude. Shift any negative thinking to positive, and embrace all insecurity so it shifts to empowerment.

Meditation is one of the ways I believe supports this transformation with greater ease because it quiets the chattered mind, calms the emotions and relaxes the body. You are not the thoughts, emotions or sensations — you experience them.

Giving your power to the thoughts, emotions and sensations is like giving it to another human to run your life. You then have no power of choice. Learning to connect more fully into the higher power of love I call “Universal Love Realm” and feeling this higher vibration of love, rather than doing it alone, is what some call “Kundalini.”

Don’t blame the people who are pushing the buttons within you around the contrasting beliefs that are not serving you. Rather, thank them for assisting you to loving you more by embracing and releasing those unhealthy beliefs.

We have to have the courage to open our hearts again with healthy boundaries. To learn to love ourselves enough to be our best friend. To develop empowerment, acceptance and self respect. To learn to connect with the higher power of love that I call” Universal Love.” Some call “God,” “Christ,” or “Buddha.”

When we reach and hold this vibration of depth of self love to a place where we are more comfortable in our skin, we experience freedom and loving intimacy.

It all starts within.

We start to attract this level of loving intimacy more with those who also have it too. It becomes a simple relationship based on sharing love and joy with each other.

We have intimate relationships with those who embrace and accept us, and we embrace and accept them. That is true sacred loving intimacy that is fun, playful and empowering.

I talk about how to do all of this in my book Transformation. As an Angel Messenger, Love Coach, Certified Hypnotist, Radio Broadcaster, Author and Minister of Love, I connect and channel pure loving energies and messages directly from the Angelic Realm, Pure Love Beings and Ascended Masters.

This helps to bring greater clarity and direction in life. To learn to take responsibility for your own life is the first choice in having emotionally mature relationships. If what I share resonates with you, you can learn more and get involved with what I offer. Please go to my website angelroselove.wix.com/love

Angelica Rose is an Angel Messenger, Love Coach, Certified Hypnotist, Author, Radio Broadcaster and Minister of Love

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